The Rational Male

Read at your own risk. Outside of, perhaps, religious texts, there isn't a book more life-changing than this for men. Have you ever wondered why women claim to like "nice guys," but reject you for being one, and then date a jerk? Do you wonder why those girls in high school friend-zoned you or, despite witnessing millions of acts of 'friend-zoning,' women, universally, believe it doesn't exist? Then, complain about "players?" (men who essentially friend zone them?) Have you pondered how so many women say, "I can't find a good guy," while you and 100, lonely "good guys" follow her around? How about why women treat you completely different when you're playing in your indie-rock band than they do at your day job? Or, why women say one thing and mean another? Or, why the women you want ignore you, and the ones' you don't obsess over you? Or, why some men who approach women are well-recieved, while others are "creeps," "sexual harrassers," or worse? Does it seem like you live on a different planet and speak a different language than women? Do you feel like you constantly do everything you can to please your girlfriend/wife, listen to her requests and she still seems cold, distant and refuses intimacy? Have you been left zeroed-out or baffled as to how your ex-girlfriend/wife moved on so quickly after your break up? Do women seem capable of heartless acts? Do you ever wonder why women seem so naive to male experience? Does it seem like the world is completely stacked against men but yet you constantly hear about male entitlement, patriarchal oppression, how awful men are.. meanwhile, you and all your friends love women and just want girlfriends? Despite all of the craziness, do you adore women and want them in your life? Do you want to understand women and improve yourself to be the best man you can be so that you will have more control over your future relationships with women? This book is a lot of different things. It's full of a kick-you-in-the butt, cold, hard truths about intersexual dynamics and how relationships between men and women can be understood far better through the lens of biology, genetics and evolutionary psychology. Why do so many men, universally, fear the rejection of one woman in a World with 4 billion of them? Could it be because evolutionarily-speaking your hindbrain still functions as it did in the hunter-gatherer past, when the rejection of one woman could mean social outcasting from your tribe? If it's not, why is this a universal experience for men across the globe? Why do billions of men who never communicated, prior the internet, share the exact same experiences with women? Did the women all meet up and decide to "friend zone" guys and date jerks, or is there a common biological reason for this? The reality is, while all women are "different," in an intrinsic sense, they all share biological attraction cues, much like all men like physical characteristics, you may be naive to. Learn them. This book will teach you: The first step to understanding and doing better with women (and all areas in your life) is understanding the reality of how women are, act, think, feel and why. It is tossing out the false narrrative and belief that men and women are exactly the same biologically that is constantly pushed today. It is understanding that "equal" does not mean "the same." The downsides: If you google this book or the 'red pill' you will find lies being propogated to make it out to be sexist, mysognistic or part of some 'mens rights activist' club. All of these claims are false and you will find out, in the book, why they exist and are prevelant, in order to suppress the information inside. Women don't actually want men to know their secrets, that's why they told you to be a "nice guy." However, this book is not sexist or anti-woman at all. In reality, it is about understanding women, loving and putting yourself first so you can be the man women actually want to be with. It is not a "cheat sheet," "pick up guide," "road map," "self help" book or "dating coach manifesto." You will have to take the information inside and choose your own path. Most importantly, once you read this book, you will never be able to go back to the disolusioned person you were prior. Even if you try, you will notice the truths inside this book everywhere you go, especially in the actions of women in your life. You may also experience a period of time where you feel like you're the only person on Earth who witnessed an alien landing and you want to tell everyone about it only to find no one believes you even though you have proof and photos. The truth will become so clear to you that the people around you may seem like robots, plugged into the matrix, unable to hear you. This can be frustrating. Especially when you just want to help fellow men avoid the pitfalls of relationships that are now completely obvious to you. However, hopefully, you'll eventually let that go and use the information to better your own life, help those who will listen, and build on your own success with intersexual dynamics, with or without them. Lastly, the author, Rollo, was originally (and still is) a blogger. This book is a collection of essays and, thus, doesn't follow a very linear structure. There is some lingo and acronyms, used in the online community, you may need to brush up on, like "AFC" = Average frustrated chump. I think a future re-release of this book with a term-glossary would do wonders in helping turn more people onto the information. Don't be afraid. Change your life, gentleman.

This book blew my mind because these were mindblowing concepts about women. I honestly never heard of these concepts and was in denial. Then I researched several forums and also talked to men and women outside and confirmed that this was true. Keep in mind that Rollo is writing these concepts from a over a decade of debate, critical inquiry, and refinement. He has refined and molded all the rebuttals and disagreements and drew out conclusions from his observation. He is drawing from thousands of men's experiences with women all across the world. I was disgusted by the concept of the female hypergamy at first. I couldn't believe that female nature is like this. I grew up in a feminine environment where I was taught that boys and girls were equal and that we think the same. Men and women think very differently I realized. These concepts in the book opened my eyes and I couldn't believe it. This suprisingly made me more compassionate towards women in real life and did not make me hate them. This allowed me to see the power that men actually hold and it is a waste of time simping for women. It's better to focus on your purpose as a man and become the right person for the right woman. Simping for woman is a waste of time because they have 2 or 3 options ready even if they give you a chance. This book motivated me to be a better man and to focus on growth and development as opposed to wasting my time chasing after women. I found that my interactions with women have vastly improved in real life. I don't find myself wasting time simping over women. This ironically causes women to give respect to me more which is fascinating. It seems like women give respect to men that are more aligned with their purpose and understand the flaws of female nature. It's kind of a miracle and it's making my day to day life more enjoyable. Beware that some women and beta men will vehemently deny the concepts in this book...but deep down inside they know that it is true. Must read book for all men.

This book was enthusiastically recommended to me by my cousin. I loved it and I’ll certainly be buying Tomasi’s two subsequent books. I have been riveted by reading The Rational Male and it made me feel immensely validated as a man. I wish this were available for me to read when I was 18, but better late than never. Nonetheless, it could have made a real positive difference with the sequence of events in my adult life between dating, fornicating, marriage and divorce. This book is a collection of blog posts from Rollo’s website under the same name. Some are shorter than others, but most of them are a pleasure to read because of Rollo’s unique way of expressing himself. These essays convey valuable insight pertaining to a myriad of topics like feminism, masculinity, sex, and dating women to name a few. Please read the negative reviews to understand that there’s a common beta(AFC) theme present in so many of them. The negative reviews are hilariously and sadly relevant to this book. It’s humorously convenient how the offense taken by many of the low review AFCs are indeed men who can’t stomach the enlightening perspectives that Rollo is waking men up to. It’s fascinating to see how many of those same negative reviews dismiss this book as merely misogynistic which it is definitely not. To say such a thing is to be a pie in the face of truth. These men demonstrate the unrelenting feminine schema that has infected them(us). The more these AFCs doth protest, the more they substantiate the remarkable reality of these things. This is the whole point of reading the book! To wake up from your feminine imposed slumber! It’s to inform yourself of these uncomfortable truths! Ideally, I think that men and women are not meant to be, nor should they be pitted against one another, but instead should exist to compliment one another in a state of beautiful harmony. So, read the negative reviews to see how AFC men paradoxically whine and simultaneously love those oppressive feminine chains! Why would I want to live in a paradox of contradictory messages? Knowing that I'm "not crazy" is like throwing a ton of burden off of my shoulders. Why wouldn't I want to alleviate such stress? This book was WELL worth the money spent on it. This is an excellent value for the expenditure versus the time reading it. You must have a truly open mind for these essays though. No wonder the "red pill" is oft referred to as a Matrix metaphor, because short of amnesia, brain damage or Alzheimers, you can't go back to not knowing once you learn something, and these are heavy ideas to digest. If you’re not comfortable with introspection and being honest about society, this book probably isn’t for you. However, if you want to grow to be a better man, then you may have just stumbled upon something truly great for you. Don’t read it if you don’t want to change. Just one simple gripe, there are many editing issues and typos in this book. Considering the value of the content, I think a revision should include a substantial list of corrections.

This book is worth its weight in gold. The book reveals the true state of gender relations and it's far from what socialization teaches. I personally think that this is essential reading for every man. I purchased this book out of curiosity since it was recommended in another awesome book: "The Manosphere" by Ian Ironwood. I hate to be so grandiose but it must be said: the information in this book completely shut me down. What I mean is that everything I knew about women, or should I say, thought I knew about women, was debunked. If you ever sat and wondered why women are as they are; if you ever wondered where you go wrong with women, you find the answers herein. Be warned that you must be able to handle the truth. If this book offends you in any way, then it's clear you need it. I cursed this author under my breath for writing "such lies" about the nature of women. I was truly angry and even considered deleting this book from my Kindle. I went through many of the seven phases of grief during and after reading this book. I even tried to act as if women are the innocent beings as socialization tells us, but could not help but see the truth every single day. Everything I'd been told by family members, the media, school and any other forms of socialization is wrong and I took that personally. In order to describe what I mean by "shut down" mentioned above, I was like a computer with no operating system. I had no clue where to begin now that I know the truth; my daily question being "What now?" My anger towards feminism soared to an all-time high for making a complete fool of me for my entire life. The book clearly warns that once you learn and witness the truth about women and society, there is no going back. If you do so, as I tried, you KNOW you're living a lie. If you ignore the advice in this book while knowing deep down in your soul it's true, you're in a pathetic state of denial. It is utter self-destruction to continue with the beliefs that socialization and feminism would have us accept. If you're a man who believes in all the conventions preached by feminism, then you desperately need this book. Read this book and stop being depressed. Read it and accept the fact that you, as a man, are valuable to society and should not accept the role of a low life servant for the feminist establishment. You have the potential to be a powerful man and a devastating enemy to man-hating ideals and it is this that feminism expertly hides with believable and pretty lies. Read it and see how feminism cleverly uses our innate behavior for its sole benefit. For example: Our protector instinct is used to tear down other men for standing up to a woman even when she's clearly wrong. Read it, cry about it, throw a tantrum, say a thousand "hale Mary's", whatever, but please don't deny the truth contained in this book.

If you are interested in this book, you are probably a man who has taken the metaphorical "red pill" - that is to say, you are questioning the values and assumptions, particularly about sex and gender, that have no doubt guided you to some disastrous point in your life and relationships - and are looking to deepen your knowledge about what to do at this point in your personal crisis. The good news is that this book will be a great help to you. I have now read a number of books on this topic, and this is one of the few that is worth reading (I hate the self-help genre, so any book of this kind that I don't throw down in disgust must be doing something right). Its greatest strength is the mindset of the author: Tomassi is direct, practical, honest, and you never feel as though his ideas are just a way of selling you some sleazy product or "secret" formula. The best insights he has come from a) his understanding that human desire, both male and female, is inherently paradoxical, a topic that often requires him to strip away the misdirections and social conditioning that conceal that paradox and b) his emphasis on practical, rational strategies for self-improvement. I don't agree with everything he says, but "red pill" newbies will be dazzled by the various pearls of wisdom on offer here. I do, however, have some caveats and qualifications. First, be aware that this is not really a "book": Tomassi writes a popular and long-running blog, and much of the content for this "book" is recycled, verbatim, from his online posts. While there has been some (minor) attempt to organize this material into a coherent text, it still reads very much like a collection of blog posts that have been loosely sewn together. In my opinion they should have been a bit more honest and marketed/presented it as such. Second, although Tomassi mentions talking to his editor at one point, and in another chapter weeds out one woman as being unsuitable for attraction due to her atrocious writing skills, his own book is riddled with basic writing mistakes. Tomassi doesn't know the difference between "compliment" and "complement" (he always uses the latter, while meaning the former), for example, and the book contains a litany of errors in which "who's" and "whose," "your" and "you're," "its" and "it's" errors sit alongside run-on sentences and various malapropisms. A few errors might be understandable, but the cumulative effect of so much bad writing really drags down the effect of the book. Maybe it's time to make that editor do some work. Third, will authors in this genre PLEASE rely on something other than just simplistic evolutionary psychology to explain human sexual behavior?! It is such flawed assumption that cultural and social structures don't have a powerful influence on human behavior as well. Just look at Tomassi's constant references to the SMV (Sexual Market Value) of men and women, an idea that, while building on evolutionary competitiveness, is also clearly shaped by the rise of capitalism, a social condition that is historical rather than natural. The prehistoric analogies in the book are, as a result, laughable: "The earliest form of proto-Game would’ve been a sexual quid pro quo. Can’t figure out how to seduce that hot, hunter-gatherer woman in the tribe? Save her ass from being torn limb from limb by a saber tooth tiger and she’ll reciprocate her gratitude with open legs." (p.183). Nonsense. Tribal sexual structures were rigid and involuntary, meaning that men and women rarely had the ability to choose whom they married or had sex with, a condition that defines much of human history. What has changed since the 1600s is a sexual revolution, described brilliantly in Faramerz Dabhoila's The Origins of Sex, which traces how modern society has been revolutionized from a culture of necessity to the one of choice that has come to define modern Game. To sum up, then, this "book"/collection of blog posts is a great source if you are looking for practical ways to improve yourself and learn some strategies for improving your relationships with women. You should read it alongside other classics as Neil Strauss's cautionary memoir The Game, Mystery's practical guide to picking up women, The Mystery Method, Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy, and Robert Greene's The Art of Seduction. It is a book to make you a more rational male - although a truly rational male would surely next dig into some social history, particularly with regard to sexuality, and learn the basics of spelling and punctuation (all while spinning some "plates," of course).

This book develops a system of thought for understanding the ancient struggle and uneasy alliance between men and women and how it brings us to the present day. The ideas in this book are rooted in evolution psychology, a keen observation of social norms and behaviors, and the collective experience of the author and many other men connecting the dots to understand women. Rollo takes these starting points and develops deeper insights into what is essentially an evolutionary arms race between men and women, fought on a social, cultural, political, biological and sexual level. The sexual economics of reproduction (eggs are expensive and sperm is cheap) dictates that women have an upper hand in this race, and men need a leg up in the Game if we are to perform and survive. There is always another layer of this onion to peel back and Rollo does so with intense clarity. On top of this Rollo goes into great detail on the common rationalizations men use to justify their lack of success with women, and how the common man's approach to women may seem logical but is in fact completely misguided. He also details women's approach to sexual selection and how our entire social structure as a society is meant to facilitate the female strategy at the expense of men. He then asks men to change the way they think about these problems, as well as how they think about themselves, to increase their chances of success and happiness in a sociosexual system that is at odds with them. Rollo goes out of his way to recognize that the ideas he presents may be offensive to some readers, but I for one had no problem with them and they in fact confirmed and clarified my own experiences with women, but condensed it all down to a coherent whole. Other reviewers have commented on Rollo's writing style, which is a bit heavy on the $10 words, and I did find myself wanting to correct his grammar at times. However I refused to allow that to distract me from the gravity of his ideas and conclusions. Besides, as I continued reading I acquired a taste for his writing style, there is an art to it which I think some simply don't appreciate. While I'm not quite ready to classify the ideas Rollo puts forward as a validated scientific theory on gender dynamics, I find it to be a damn compelling hypothesis with a lot of predictive and explanatory power. I suspect that current and future observations of female behavior in our society will only further cement the conclusions of this book. On a personal level, this book has heightened my awareness of the social dynamics that are designed to limit my potential in my interactions with women, and why those dynamics came into existence in the first place. 5 stars does no justice to this book, it is absolutely life changing.

An absolute must read (multiple times) for any male in today’s world. You can pretty much treat this as a Bible...yes, it has that much relevance. Buy it, read it (many times), absorb it, learn it, embrace it and it’ll become a part of your DNA. This book saved my life, figuratively and literally. I’ve also bought this for a few guys who I consider to be brothers. I will recommend, though, that if you do that, when you give it to that person, do it from the heart and DO NOT pressure them to read it. Make sure they understand that it’s theirs to keep and for them to feel free to read it in their own time, and NEVER, and I mean NEVER ask them if they’ve been reading it. They will, in their own time, let you know that they’ve started reading it. It’s happened like that every single time with me. You can’t RP anyone. They have to be in a position to where they’re seeking the answers on their own accord. Mothers, especially single mothers, buy this for your son[s]. I would, though, recommend you to wait until they’re at least 12 or 13-years old or when they start talking about girls, which ever comes first. Read it with them. Put your personal feelings and biases aside and do it with an open mind. I only wish I had this taught to me when I was a young teen. It would have not only changed so many things in my life for the better, but it would’ve saved a lot of heartbreak, as well as some potentially disastrous situations. Fathers, not only do you need this, but your sons do as well. Brothers, you need this as well, and sons, give this to your fathers. I cannot stress how important it is for men, especially now-a-days to read this book, understand it, embrace it, and make it a part of your soul for your survival and well-being, both mental and physical. I know I’ve been very long winded;however, I only wish to convey how imperative it is that men make this book a part of their lives. Thanks for reading and best of luck and love to you and yours in the future.

About 4 years ago I watched a TV ad. Ad was about a fat boy (male in his 30) crying in his bed calling for his mother, because he was sick. At the same time his wife was standing beside, looking pity and giving him an advertised pill. I sat there with only one thought: " what the hell." That night I watched only ads. I was shocked with what I found. Almost every ad had the same concept of crying, weak or somehow passive man and woman in dominant role. I couldn’t fully comprehend the stuff I was seeing at that time. And so it began. I wanted to understand. I wanted to know why. I wanted to know if I'm the only one or am I just going crazy. I've been in serious relationships, in playful, I had ONS, but when I tried to understand and rationalize my behavior and behavior of other people around me, I failed to make the correct order out of it. This book in particular, was one of the first semi-serious evaluations I read about this topic. It helped me to structure my thoughts and understand my own actions, as well as people around me. For me it was like reading in the native language I knew when I was a kid, but then lost overtime, and when I started reading again, the language came back to me, and I could fully understand and enjoy the full power and passion of it, even more comparing to when I was a kid. However, there is a downside. The downside comes not from the book itself, but rather from us and our own ego. Unintentionally we were set up that way that when you read the book, and you have your own “aha” moment, people tend to go from one extreme to another. They feel burned, they feel like they were lied to their whole life, and so their first reaction is anger, its irritation, its generalization of facts and actions of other people. Yes, it is necessary period of any workout, including mental, and its called pain period. At that point your best bet would be to lean back, observe, learn, and look around, and then, when you are calm, your anger is gone, and you are ready to act, do it as an adult. Do it as someone who has learned a new knowledge, someone who is in position of power, and got an absolutely unique ability to look from other perspective of view. Because now you do. This is not a good or a bad book. This book is rationalization of male thoughts. You will understand what was happening in your high school, you will see now how come your wife left you after so many years of amazing marriage, you will see how your girlfriend could cheat with that tattoed punk, you will understand why your mother was sometimes acting not like your mother, you will see why your co-workers/classmates/ friends and family behave that way with the opposite sex, and you will laugh, cry, giggle, and will have this small smirk on your face., as you know this whole joke and you are the only one who can understand it. Embrace, prepare, and be ready to act.

I first came across Rollo's work though Elliott Hulse, and if Hulse recommends a book, it's got to be a great book, and this is more than a bloody great book, this is a transformational and groundbreaking piece of work. I was well informed on game before I read this book, however, I wasn't aware of intersocial dynamics to this extent, this information is such a gem that you need to go through it multiple times to realize how valuable it is. As a 19-year-old I feel it's an absolute pleasure to have stumbled across such information so early on, it opened my eyes to a wide range of hard truths that I see occur regularly around me that represents perfectly well what Rollo describes in the book. Once you read this book and have a look around, you realize how deprived we really are of positive masculinity as described in the book, and how 90% of men are still in the matrix, conforming to feminine idealizations and pedestalizing women to an unbelievable degree. The most disturbing fact of all is that they are totally oblivious of their blue pill conditioning, and this is exactly why it is the norm now and women are loving it while men are figuring out mindlessly how to get their ex back. I lost count to how many friends I have suggested this book, and it's fantastic to see friends becoming aware of such invaluable information, it's a chain reaction. If there's any single book you must read as a man, it has to be this book, and while you're at it just grab the other two volumes as well. PS. Many of your questions and curiosities associated with women and their nature will be answered after reading this book.

„The Rational Male“ von Rollo Tomassi ist ein absolutes Must-Have für jeden Mann, der die Dynamiken zwischen Mann und Frau in der modernen Welt besser verstehen möchte. In diesem Sachbuch liefert Tomassi tiefgehende Einblicke in zwischenmenschliche Beziehungen, die auf fundierten Studien und psychologischen Erkenntnissen beruhen. Der Autor geht analytisch und unvoreingenommen an das Thema heran und bietet dem Leser eine klare, sachliche und oft auch herausfordernde Perspektive. Das Buch ist besonders wertvoll für Männer, die sich auf dem Weg zu mehr Selbstverwirklichung und Unabhängigkeit befinden. Es hilft, die oft komplexen und subtilen Dynamiken in der Interaktion mit Frauen zu entschlüsseln und liefert konkrete, nachvollziehbare Erklärungen für das Verhalten in Beziehungen. Tomassi entlarvt viele gesellschaftliche Mythen und bietet eine alternative Sichtweise auf die Rollen von Mann und Frau. Der Schreibstil des Autors ist typisch amerikanisch. Auch wenn einige seiner Thesen provozieren mögen, ist das Buch insgesamt eine äußerst lohnenswerte Lektüre, die jedem Mann ein starkes Fundament im Verständnis menschlicher Interaktionen und der eigenen Rolle in Beziehungen bietet. Fazit: „The Rational Male“ ist nicht nur ein informatives Buch, sondern auch ein wertvoller Begleiter für Männer, die ihre eigene Sicht auf die Welt der Beziehungen erweitern und sich ein solides Fundament für die persönlichen Herausforderungen des Lebens aufbauen möchten. Uneingeschränkte Kaufempfehlung!

I cannot recommend "The Rational Male" series of books highly enough to Men, particularly young Men. In a time of crisis a close friend gave me this book and it explained in excruciating detail the story of my life as a "Blue Pilled" male. Following the painful ending of my most recent relationship, and with a string of prior failed relationships. The Rational Male finally explained to me in language I could understand, how, and why this had been the case up to that point. Understanding female nature and the lies told to me by our culture properly has completely changed my life. "The rational Male" series, and the "Red Pill Awareness" I have gained from it has taught me to not hate women for what they can never be to me, but rather appreciate them for what they are. Some of that is not flattering to my old Blue Pill ideals. It is very much obscured in the culture and in the ever present media. Read the book and understand what you as a man should be to a woman, instead of the lie sold to you since childhood. Your life and your relationships with women will be far better for it. Thank you Rollo Tomassi.

The Rational Male is an insightful and a must read book about the intersexual dynamics in a deeper sense. Particularly in today's confusing genders roles, it's a eye opening study about inter and intra genders prospects.

One of the most moving books that I have ever read. I insist all men who haven't read it yet to read it with an open mind. Men gotta reclaim their due place in society before it's too late.