Women Who Love Too Much

I am 30.. married 2 years and most likely heading towards a divorce. Since we..I.. was desperate, i finally got us to start couple's therapy and the therapist asked me to read this book. This book called me on all my BS. And it was easy to accept it because it doesn't talk to you directly, it talks about other women and men who have had these problems.So as you read their stories, you can relate to them. Initially I kept thinking 'oh..thats a little like me.. but not really.. i don't have those kinda issues' or 'no, i don't feel that way' but as i kept reading.. it slowly started to unravel and i began to question and understand myself. I kept blaming my husband for all the pain and suffering that i was going through but after this book i realized that although he was causing me all this pain.. i was the one who invited it and kept encouraging it..not intentionally or consciously of course! It tells you how to look at things in your past..your childhood that you would NEVER pay attention to..but now is responsible for attracting all your bad relationships and drama. This book is also great for parents because it tells you how badly a parent's behavior can hurt or shape a child and in turn affect their perception, shape their personalities and haunt them enough to destroy them even through their adulthood. I would recommend this book for any and everyone, not just those in bad relationships although i think thats what gets you to notice this book in the first place. It helps you look at yourself, identify the true origin of the patterns of hurt in your life. I'm not sure about how helpful it is with fixing things but its still half the battle won.

What a book! Gosh now Indian TV series look like co-dependent! Every man & woman must read it. Its honest, insightful, to-the-point. I just finished reading it in two days. I will say I feel dizzy. Because this book is really heavy with honesty I am not used to. Helped me see myself better. Read this before getting married or I you are among those people who HATE being alone. This book will tell you WHY & HOW to be deeply passionately love YOURSELF. Because being selfish is IMPORTANT (contradictory to popular notion) ... Remember the Hindi saying "Joh apnna na ho saka... Woh kisi aur ka kya hoga") Going to make this mandate reading for my generations to come. ####### 20 Oct 2017: Post reading this book I read the following books as well. Read it if you have any one of the following problems in life: 1) You ATTRACT MOSTLY negative people who always seem to take you for granted - emotionally, physically, economically 2) In your family being loving = sacrifice yourself without expecting anything in return 3) Your family insist on SHOWING how happy and loving they are (basically you are NOT ALLLOWED TO FIGHT FOR YOUR OWN OPINION. FORGET ABOUT HAVING ONE DIFFERENT FROM REST OF THE CLAN!) 4) You wonder why your family has so much if health issues. 5) You wonder where your life is going 6) You wonder if actually your parents/grand parents are actually good people 7) You wonder why you are unlucky 8) You wonder why you have trouble holding on relationship : romantic, friendship, office colleagues, neighbors etc 9) You dream about SUICIDE. 10) You want to sleep 24hrs. 11) You hate yourself. Books to Read: 1) Women who love too much 2) Women who love men who hate them 3) Controlling People 4) Codependent no more**** THIS IS BIBLE OF LIFE. READ IT. 5) Will I be good enough - Narcissistic mothers 6) Toxic Parents 7) Emotionally immature parents. Stay well. I hope the following helps someone: "Never Ever Give Up on Yourself. You die when you are READY. Not before that. If no one understands you, supports you - you understand yourself, support yourself. It might not be easy. But YOU ARE WORTH YOURSELF." Plan for amazing life ahead so that you know what to look for. Good luck.

If you love therapist stories with solutions you would love this book... Helps women to get through heartbreak...

This book not only completely changed my attitude towards dating but also heal a part of me by encouraging me to take control of my own life. If you are someone who struggles with male validation and constantly seeks it out please please read this book. On the other hand even if you are someone who doesn't really face issues with things like male validation it is still an amazing read!

The best part of the book is it is undeniably honest about the patterns that seem so normal but pave way to suffering( which most of the times the exact cause being unrecognised due to denial- the worst enemy). Quite informative insights. Btw, alcoholism can be replaced by many other forms of neglect and abuse but the consequences were alike. That's why it is very relatable. Thank you so much, dear Author. I am glad i encountered this book. Good life, everyone!

The book helps you analyse your state of relationships as they are. A good read but I think there is a lot of over emphasis on everything being connected to alcoholism or co-alcoholics which couldn’t be related by a no-alcoholic reader with no alcoholic family history. Otherwise, it helps in many other ways. Must read for women of this age.

A really no-nonsense book that puts the power firmly back in your own hands to change the dynamics within your relationships. Puts one on the path to emotional healing and self-containedness so that one can only keep those men (and people, in general), in one's life who bring honesty, connectedness, stability and availablity into it. It's true that a lot of the stories are related to alcoholism, as it is written in a different cultural context, however one can substitute alcoholism with parental neglect/abandonment/other emotionally unhealthy behaviours, and the lessons still hold.

This book is so beautiful every women should read it. Now completed this book and I am going to change my life. I already put the initiative before now I am going to work on myself everyday. Now I realise where the issue lies and I am ready to win this time. I am stronger and full of hope.

I really liked this book. Described a lot of what I’ve been through and made me understand a lot about myself. A must read for people who suffer continuos abuse in the relationships and understand the roots of it

Good book for women who tend to lose their identity in a relationship

Worthwhile reading if you always try to find the ways to justify your partner, give them a second chance, work on your relationships, etc etc… Even if your case is not as extreme as some shown in the book it shed so much insight onto why we care too much, why men dont care and why we suffer in the end! Helps you to get perspective on your behaviour

Fabulous book , very informative. Educational , fantastic examples. I leaned a lot. I read the book in 2 weeks. I would read it over and over as a reference. She gave every type of woman who would possibly love a man too much, and needless to say I was in quite a few examples and case histories. The case histories and how they got that way was eye opening, how our childhoods had so much to do with how we are today, and why we are the way we are today.. The fact that we have addictions ourselves to food, drink or drugs because of childhood is amazing. We look for what is familiar. It is such a good read you can't put it down. I wanted to learn more and more, and get better. Then it offers you a solution and explains how to do it. Yes it is a fabulous book I can't say enough, I thought it would be dry because my sister refered it to me, I was quitting an abusive relationship and having a really hard time, I was so obsessed with him and she said get the book it will help . I thought , oh right. But its been 3 weeks and I have not called him or emailed him. I challenge you to purchase it, it will make you feel better, if it could help me, .......and I was as low as you could get.......he was screaming at me and swearing at me in public restaurants and I would just sit there and take it for $400 a month. Can't get any lower than that. Do it, you will only end up smiling. I promise, because I thought there was no hope for me, and I can actually smile now, really can smile. I hope the best for everyone who reads the book, and good luck. love Sharon.

Je suis tombée un peu par hasard sur une recommandation pour ce livre sur un réseau social, dans un groupe de self-improvement. Très enthousiaste et à la fois un peu sceptique au départ avec pour seule véritable idée le résumé et quelques avis d'internautes, je l'ai acheté, à tout hasard. Il se trouve qu'une grande majorité des mécanismes psychologiques qui y sont décrits s'appliquent à mon cas. Quelle délivrance, après tant d'années dans le noir, d'enfin comprendre les origines de cet étrange comportement qui a toujours été le mien (au moins depuis 10 ans !). Une simple lecture (et une lecture simple !), entrecoupée à chaque paragraphe ou presque de longues réflexions et mise en rapport avec mon expérience personnelle, a eu un véritable effet déclencheur. Et ce avant même d'avoir atteint la section proposant des clés pour ne plus reproduire les schémas erronés. Comprendre les mécanismes, c'est visiblement déjà les maîtriser. Quant à la forme, c'est un livre facile et rapide à lire, avec des témoignages (peut-être parfois un peu trop) et surtout une analyse de l'auteur dans chaque cas. Ce sont autant de leçons que l'on peut s'approprier. Tout le monde ne trouvera pas ses réponses dans ce livre, c'est certain, il faut avoir eu une enfance et/ou un entourage difficile(s). En revanche, quand le cas du lecteur est adapté au livre, les bénéfices sont extraordinaires. Il est vrai que j'aurais aussi pu résoudre l'énigme de mon comportement en consultant directement un psychologue. Il y a un rapport coût-bénéfice à calculer, dans mon cas je suis ravie d'avoir découvert (plus ou moins par hasard) ce livre qui a changé un aspect de ma vie (et je pèse mes mots !).