The Love Dare, LeatherTouch

I'm recently engaged and even though this is technically for married couples, I want to use it to learn how to continue growing our love. I skimmed through some of the book and am really excited to start! These are dares I want to use every day throughout our marriage.If you're having marriage difficulties, I pray that Jesus heals your hurt and rekindles your marriage. He makes all things new and brings the dead to life!

This book is not a magic wand. It won't give you a perfect marriage in an instant....and it's not meant to. It's meant to teach you how to love, with the hope that your spouse will notice it and return the favor. This is a self-help book that hopes to have a ripple effect on your marriage. And in my experience, it makes a big impact. I used it after my husband said he wanted a divorce...three days into me taking these dares, my husband was crying because he was touched by my efforts. He eventually called off the divorce because of this book. We stayed married another 4 years. In the end he was not as committed as I was, but the book is not meant to change your spouse, it's meant to change you. And it most certainly does, if you let it. If you want to know how to practically and actively show others that you love them unconditionally, this is the book for you.

Great book. Highly recommend.

Well wrote and helpful

I just returned from watching the movie "Fireproof" for the second time. I watched it the first time on opening night and ordered "Love Dare" from Amazon when I returned home after the first showing.Having been through an UN-WANTED divorce a few years ago I would like to point out a few things:1) The thoughts and suggestions in "Love Dare" are best practiced from the earliest days of a relationship/marriage. They are principles that we should all strive for from day one.2) Just because you practice these things does not mean it will save your marriage or cause an un-willing spouse to have a miracle involving the changing of his or her heart.3) It takes two people to make a marriage. While I would tend to agree that more times than not both people in a relationship need to improve upon the way they treat their partner..........just because you may incorporate the principles of "Love Dare" doesn't guarantee success.4) Watch out for "church" people. Always guard yourself against people in the church who encourage you to do what is wrong instead of encouraging you to do what is godly. There are many, many, many men and women in the church who would love to drag your marriage down along with their own failing marriages. Believe me, they will succeed in taking your marriage down with their own if you allow their advice to take hold of your heart. (I watched it happen right before my own eyes and was amazed and deeply saddened) These hurt and angry people always seem to find each other and they will feed off of each other's mis-guided anger if they are allowed.5) As believers let's start "showing" people how to live instead of "telling" them. C.S. Lewis said it so well when he said, "People are good at expecting others to live in a manner that they are not willing to live themselves." I can honestly say that I see this fact displayed in the local church more than anywhere else.6) Don't buy into this big-screen emotion based idea that-----"all you have to do is accept Jesus into your heart and everything will just be great from there on out." The real world doesn't work that way.....not even in the church.7) Practice and live "Love Dare". If your spouse isn't completely blind and completely self-centered then hopefully they will learn from you.8) Again, do this from day one. Do not wait until you are already going to the court house to start the divorce process. Sure, it works in the movies but I will tell you.......very rarely will it work in real life.9) Love your mate while you have them in your life daily. Don't wait until it is almost over and hope for a miracle that most likely will never happen.If you see my ex-wife please tell her that I love her. If you see the cowardly Southern Baptist pastor in Chipley, FL that performed her wedding ceremony to her new husband even after he sat and prayed with me and knew for a fact that I refused to sign any divorce paperwork and absolutely did not want a divorce then let him know I haven't forgotten.My wife and I were doing just fine on our own destroying our own marriage at the time. We did not need "godly" people helping us further destroy it. Again...thanks Chipley Church People. It's interesting while one Southern Baptist Church tries to save marriages by making "Fireproof" and "Love Dare" there are others out there that seem happy to destroy it.Meanwhile a few years have passed and I have this eternal hole in my heart and life. Guard your mind and your marriage against the local church when it strays from the path of righteousness.**I see some folks are happy and some not so happy with what I have said. Please read further info. that I have posted in the comments section of my post if you are interested in my thoughts as one who has been through it all before. I am not anti-"Love Dare" or against the movie "Fireproof" at all. I shed more tears while watching that movie than I have in a long time. It could really identify with it and I think others have and will as well. I wish that none of us had to go through the pains of a difficult relationship**

Great read

Great book.

As an agnostic who isn't overly put off by religious overtones, I liked that it was accessible and gave a specific directive each day (especially the first third or so).My spouse was not receptive and ended up telling me they believed our marriage was a waste of their time, which was definitely a knife to the gut but I felt like I was able to better remember what genuine love was supposed to look like, see different places where it had been absent on each side & better saw where I had pulled away from it on mine.Even though it ended anyway, I was able to cut through the noise and distraction of years of hurt to find the embers of what I had started with when we said I do and love without fear or expectation. I couldn't save it alone but I was able to pursue faithfulness to the vows I made and offer apology for my wrongs and (silent) forgiveness for theirs.In the end, just that was gift enough.