Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: A Guide to Getting Over Your Partner's Past and Finding Peace

I have found this book to be extremely helpful. I came across it whilst googling the nature of the issues I was encountering. I came across the usual forums which essentially contained messages such as "just get over it" or " just let it go". Could work that out for myself and am fully aware that It is imperative that I do deal with this. I was struggling with how to do so. I didn't want to talk to friends about it for fear of being simply told the same thing, The book very much helped to address that because it's run by someone who clearly understands the problem in detail.The book is very well written and thoughtfully structured. The author is firm in his advice throughout but also very empathetic. It contains a number of helpful strategies for dealing with retroactive jealousy and helps put the whole thing into perspective. Another key thing I also gained from the book was the knowledge that I am not alone in trying to deal with retroactive jealousy. I'm not saying that this is magic cure but it does give you the means to deal with the issues. Overall excellent and highly recommended if you are encountering these feelings yourself.

I've been suffering with RJ on and off for the best part of three years with no clue on what was going on. Its pushed my relationship with someone super attractive and loving to the limits and I was close to walking away. This book explains exactly what has been going off in my mind and I feel seen and understood. Best of all, I've realised I'm not alone. This guide gives a brilliantly insightful view on what it is and how to overcome it. Being partly dyslexic, the concise writing is perfect for me. I'll be carrying it around along with the written exercises for a good while whilst I get a grip on the RJ. I'm grateful to the author for sharing their experiences on how to get out of the depressing pit that is retroactive jealousy. Thank you.

This book was helpful in opening my eyes to some of the things I didn’t realise I have been doing in my relationship. Some useful advice to get onto a path to recovery.

I really wish someone could have given me a copy of this twenty years ago. Zachary Stockill has managed to get a handle on things in a year or two that I've failed at for two decades. If nothing else, it's helped me realize I'm not a complete wierdo freak for being upset by my partner's past. There are a couple of places where he strays a little too close to the new-age, buddhist stuff for my taste. Setting that aside, this is a really helpful guide to anyone struggling to manage their emotions with regard to their partners past sexual history. The advice and guidance is generally very practical and based on well developed theories like CBT. Although it's delivered with a large dose of compassion and understanding, it's very firm about underlying causes and what can/should be done to address them. For me, this is all still work in progress, but Stockill's book has helped me come further in the last few weeks than I have for a long, long time.

I read this after Joshua Fletcher's in same night. They both have some good points. But not really relating much to females!! Everything mentions from male point of view which I found like this is considered one sided There was a point in this book that made me feel worse and I cried! It made me think of my partner with his ex having sex and went into detail of sharing bodily fluid! I was devastated as all my jealousy has been around love and connection But in it's defence there is some good points in both books.ill take away that people don't remember details about things which I realise I don't remember much about my past? Also look after yourself exercise ect which takes away focus. Not sure which book to mention as I read back to back .worth a read but still looking for a mixed gender one!

I have just finished this book and while, as it states in the book, I have a lot of work to do yet, it's the first I time in a very long time that I have finished a self help book and felt as though there is no part of it that I contested or questioned. The author's honest inclusion of his own experience with RJ and the encouragement to action some of the steps while reading really led me to come away feeling more rational and stable when it comes to RJ. I really have an excitement to work on this each day and to action what I've learned into my relationship. While my relationship is great and my struggle with RJ is somewhat internal, I think this may have saved my relationship from heading down the path that I would never want it to.

Zachary is a true inspiration! I read this book over 3 days in order to proccess and get the most out of it. There is no magic trick to fix RJ but this book has made a lasting impact on me and helped changed my way of thinking. Zachary you are my hero! You have helped me find the right path in life I still have a long road ahead but I can beat this. If you are in two minds about getting this book or the online course, do it you won't regret it.

I have just finished reading this book and I have already let go of so much toxic thought and anger, I can't believe it! I feel so empowered now. This book has given me so many practical tools to deal with and change my thinking that I just have this inner confidence that I'm going to be ok now. These things used to send me to a place of anger that was not experienced in any other area of my life. I used to beat myself up with my own feelings around this stuff. Thank you Zach. You are a life saver. Well done on creating a solution to this debilitating illness

Ottimo libro per chiunque soffra di gelosia retroattiva. È scritto in un inglese chiaro e semplice da leggere. Fa riflettere sulla propria situazione a fondo, incredibilmente utile e pratico. Assolutamente consigliato, anche a chi come me in un primo momento titubava nell’acquisto.

I just finished reading this book on Kindle, and I have to say that this book is worth every penny... and then some. I have been suffering with RJ for nearly 1 year. I tried to self heal and nothing seemed to work. Then I found the author, Zachary, online and started to follow his directions and found hope. He is honest, well spoken and an RJ survivor, so he knows what he's talking about. When he suggested this book, I purchased it immediately. I noticed a change quickly... even before reading it half way through and found my RJ fading fast. If you are suffering from RJ, do yourself and your partner a favor and get this book NOW! I guarantee, you won't be disappointed. I will be reading it again, it's just that good.

As a suffer from Retroactive Jealousy and not knowing at first what it was I found this book and the authors website just by doing a simple google search. My partner and I quickly identified what I was suffering from and I was opened to any help. This book is very informative and I related to everything the author was writing about. It opened up my eyes to who I was and where I needed to be. I would highly recommend this book to anyone dealing with retroactive jealousy.

Beautiful book.. really makes you think and rethink quite a lot of things in life. Informative and healing with a healthier perspective on life... especially topics such as looking at the condition in a positive manner and using it for personal growth.

This book is a godsend. It still depends on the individual to make it work but I am so grateful that it was written and l am no longer alone! Heather